Peringatan Untuk Diri Sendiri

Ya Allah, betul sangatkan. Kadang-kadang kita merungut itu dan ini, tapi tak tahu, yang Allah dah bagi segalanya yang kepada kita, tapi kita masih tak nampak anugerah Nya sebabkan kita selalu merasakan hidup ni tak cukup selagi tak dapat apa yang kita nak!

Bila merungut tentang Long Distance Marriage ni, kadang kala kita lupa ada sebab Allah put us in this situation. Why? Hanya Dia yang tahu. Kita sebagai hamba Nya hanya patuh , dan redha, dan selebihnya tawakal sahaja selain berdoa kepada Nya agar diberi kekuatan.

Perasaan tu datang bercampur-campur, bukan diminta bukan kita yang menjempuntnya, tapi sebab kita juga manusia, nak rasa sempurna, nak rasa bahagia melihat orang lain bahagia..

Sedangkan kita tak sedar, ada yang perkahwinan diuji bermacam-macam ujian yang lebih berat, ada yang suami curang, anak sakit, isteri derhaka,  jadi apa lah sangat dugaan suami tinggal jauh dan kadang kala jumpa sebulan sekali dua...

Ada yang fikir, baik lah tak kahwin kalau nak tinggal jauh jauh macam ni, tapi tahukah kita, solat orang berkahwin, solatnya 70 kali lebih baik dari orang bujang. Setiap apa yang kita lakukan, dengan ikhlas untuk suami, untuk keluarga semuanya dikira. Perkahwinan mendekatkan diri kepada Allah. Kita rasa tenang, tak perlu fikir hal nak pergi dating, masalah percintaan dan sebagainya. Kita fokus kepada amal ibadat untuk menjadi suami isteri bersama di syurga kelak.

Apa pun, ingat lah walau bagaimana jauh pun suami kita tu, Allah dekat dengan kita, sentiasa berdoa agar suatu hari adalah rezeki kat mana mana untuk tinggal sebumbung!

Sekadar peringatan untuk diri sendiri yang selalu sedih ini memikirkan nasib duduk jauh jauh dengan suami :(

How a husband's friends can break a marriage

Occay, the title a little bit cliché right? hehehe.. I think by now, I’m old enough to learn that marriage is not always a bed of roses. There are ups and downs. There's not always about sunshine and rainbow. There will be storms and thunders too heheh..  Marriage is a responsibility from day one!

Totally understand a guy need some time with the boys, futsal, fishing whatever just to shoot the breeze. That kind of needs that can't be met by a wife ( hello i pun suka mancing tau, tang futsal tu maybe mengah sikit :D)

I'm still in the learning stage of becoming a perfect wife.  Jika dapat disamakan dengan proses pembesaran baby, yours truly is at the crawling part lah kot... ;D

I hate to say this. I jealous of my husband friends. Straight from my heart ni hahaha..

Bukan cemburu apa, my husband's friends semuanya lelaki :p.. so no point lah I nak jeles yang bukan bukan. But I really envy the time they always had with my husband. You know, that kind of bonding, the football game at mamak, the teh tarik happy hour, the futsal game, badminton etc etc.. something which I always miss because we are living apart. At first I thought maybe in this PJJ (long distance) marriage, this is the challenge i have to face. Tapi eventually its really eating me inside out. The worse is, I started to hate all of his friends. Sigh.

The moment I call him late nite, just to say how much I miss him, and just to mengadu how was my day.. he said, his friends is outside the house, he had to entertain them... :-|

The moment I saw a romantic movie on air and I wish that we could watch the movie together, so I text him Syg lets watch this movie together, and he replied, on boat, fishing. arghhhh tak ke bengang

I feel that I'm such a bad bad bad person, jeles dan marah kat kawan dia yang tak bersalah tu, (really ke tak bersalah?) Explanation kat bawah.

I dont know who to blame. Myself? yg terlalu nak perhatian, of coz la perempuan kan, mesti drama queen sikit. I think as a wife, I deserve my husband attention anyway I want hahahah tamak gila. But I ada dengar ustaz cakap di ceramah, bagi perhatian kepada isteri tu salah satu kewajipan suami melunaskan nafkah batin. You know batin ni bukan nye hal hal dalam bilik je, but something like melibatkan perasaan, dan jiwa. Err betulke ni?

Or.. it could be My husband yang tak boleh nak bezakan yang mana yg lebih penting his marriage or friends? I think he is more to tak nak kecik kan hati kawan.. ye lah kecikkan hati bini awak ni tak pe kan :-/

Or it could be his friends yang tak faham faham ke that this guy really needs to spend his time with his wife.. I dont ask much. Bukannya 24 hours nak bergayut kat telefon tu, dulu dulu boleh lah kan masa zaman cintan cintun :D. Just a short call, or just when I'am at his place, he is 100% belongs to me (tamak lagi :D). Most of his friends tak kahwin lagi, maybe sebab tu diorang tak "faham-faham"

It's become worst, kadang kadang when I ke ipoh, dah nampak ada kereta bini kat depan rumah kawan you, jgn lah tunjuk muka kan, buat buat je lah  u turn rumah you balik, ni tak, nakbagi salam nak jumpa my husband.. end up I was all alone kat bilik sampai pukul 2 pagi. esoknya my husband nak kerja, apa satu projek pun tak jadi :p hehe..

When I come to think about it, it could be possibly to my impatience. Sabar tu sabar, but I had enough. Dulu sebelum kahwin, I can tolerate, ye lah belum jadi suami takkan nak control ( eh I bukan queen control tau)

Whatever it is, DH is the best husband, he is the one who is always support and stand by me when I'm down. Friends who always bullied me (yeah I like being bullied by him heheheh). He is wonderfully patient man, who is ready to disregard my imperfections just to love me more. There are times when I feel so guilty because I can't stick with as much patience as he has for me.

I constantly remind myself that I'm blessed to have such a wonderful husband.

Its just that sometimes, I need a friend too just like he needs his friends. The time when hormones gone haywire, is the time when I need him the most... betul tak tipu. Ada orang kata kalau perempuan hormon tak betul jgn dekat dekat. Tapi kalau I lagi jauh lagi nak marah hehe..

Poor husband, kena dealing dgn isteri dia yg macam ni hehehe..

So guys, do you agree with me that our husband's friends can break the marriage? Or at least jeopardize the relationship? I think, It could.

Kepada abang-abang yang belum kahwin, tolong lah faham situasi kawan-kawan anda yang sudah berkahwin. Tak payah la nak ajak pergi memancing every weekend, lepak kat mamak malam malam macam zaman sebelum kahwin dulu. Nanti korang kahwin korang akan tau rasa dalam dilema nak jaga hati isteri atau nak jaga hati kawan, nanti tak ikut kawan digelar kena queen control pula atau TB (takut bini). Huh!

Ni entry bukan marah, tapi NASIHAT :D

Marriage is a long journey. Marriage is a lot of hard works too

May Allah fill our homes and heart with Tranquility, Love and Mercy...

Buka Puasa with DH

As Salam...

Husband is here. Still here, malam ni baru balik ke Ipoh. Husband is very busy lately. Sejak tukar kerja (which of course la for a better pay) he don't even have time for himself, apa lagi kat isteri dia ni... and i know he always find a way to make time for me, but its ok,  a small sacrifice you've got to make for a slightly bright future....;)

Anyway, bulan puasa i dont cook much. Excited on the first day je, second day, balik kerja terus tertidor atas sofa, sedar-sedar dah azan berbuka :D

Tapi husband balik kan, mestilah cuba masak something for him. Nasiblah dia balik on Thursday, my halfday hari tu, and then Friday, which is my week end. Today hopefully can go home early at 3.30pm.

Talking about long distance marriage ni banyak pengorbanan perlu di buat. Dari segi masa, emosi dan perasaan. I think so far i have dedicated my 100% to make this thing works. Yes! you sleep with tears almost every nite, you pray everyday, hopes in the mercy of Allah to give me the strength, give us the rezeki to stay together under one roof. And we never lose hope of Allah's mercy... Allah knows what is best for us so why should we complain. We always want sunshine but He knows there must be rain..
So whenever we're down and whenever we feel that everything is going wrong
It is just Allah's way to make our spirit strong… Allah is the best Planner,He knows what will be the best for us..

Wanna share my cooking for my darling husband, simple one, but dia cakap sedap sedap tu kira ok lah kan :D

We had chicken rice for our first buka puasa together this year... ;). The chilli sauce i made was super sedap. But the chicken was a bit overcooked :D

Bubur pulut hitam  plus masterchef plating ;P

The second day, we had Daging goreng kunyit. I used fresh kunyit, blended together with 1 tbs chilli, halia, bawang besar, dan garlic.

And Sambal Hati yang sedap sangat ;)

Anyway, today's menu is sotong and fish.. Tak tau lah nak masak apa... maybe Sotong Paprik kot :D

How I met you....

The title's a bit of a cliche right? but it explains all..

August 2002
First time you call my number, you just keep quite. I thought you are a psychopath.  We then realized that both our best friends who matchmaking us by exchange our phone number. Then we start flirted and fooled around through phones and sms! hahah.. We exchange photos through mail,love letters and we've met couple times.

16th Feb 2003
That was the first time you said, I love you inside one souvenir shop under Heart Shaped lights in Alor Setar. 2 days after valentine (that time we dont know that its haram to celebrate valentine's day haha!).. That souvenir shop filled with valentine's day merchandise like Heart Shaped lights  hanging everywhere. What a romantic place to say I love You!! haha.. It was not what I expected. I nearly chocked. Of course I want you so much, but that time, I was so scared of the commitment and the risk, that what if, if we were broke up, my heart must be tormented and torn apart. What if I broke your heart, I'd lose you as my good friends. How to deal with that. How to love you, I dont know how to love you. We both don't have the experience . I was so scared that I didn't reply you.  Back at college, I still can believe,  hardly pinch myself because I must be dreaming haha.. Soon I realized that you are the one for me, the perfect tall, dark and handsome boy. The time when I was so down and thought no one care about me,  and you silently care. When we were sitting close to each other and I thought my heart was the only thing that beat fast, your secretly did. when I thought I was ugly and should disappear, you thought I was the prettiest and would always want to see me. All of that happened when I thought badly of myself, you was actually around for me.

And the rest is history :)

After 9 years dating, we entered a commitment. :)

Thanks Allah for great journey, for the great man whom I admire and respect. He is kind, thoughtful and loving friend and Husband. I'm truly blessed.
There's ups and downs, through the good and the bad, Still love the way he talk, and he still love the way I get mad hahaha!!

Lesson I've learnt along the way is that being in love is not always a bed of roses. In every relationship, there are ups and downs. It is not always perfect and conflict-free. We are not living in fairy tale world.

We have to face the reality, there will be fights and arguments  We take the risk and we learn to minimize the risk. . It doesn't matter how long you've been alone, how long you've hoped, or how long you've waited. There’s no such thing as perfect love story. Heartaches will always be a part of loving, but remember.. though not perfect.. if that love is meant for you, it will stick with you till the end. No matter how tough it gets, no matter how long. Far from perfect; but real. And there is no perfect relationship. Bullshit will come up when you least expect it. Jealousy will come out of nowhere. At times you will feel replaced and at times you will feel like giving up. Just don't go that far. Don't give up. You'll argue, and you won't talk for days, but nobody says it has to be over.

To DH, we've been through all the good times and hard times, and I hope our love and passion will lasts forever till Jannah.. And may we be blessed with Soleh & Solehah kids.. Praying (and working) hard everyday! And together, Allah's grace, we will continue our journey forward.. :)

Happy 10th years anniversary!

Saturday Blues

Why Saturday Blues? kerana minggu  saya bermula hari Sabtu. Cuti adalah separuh hari pada setiap Khamis, dan Jumaat adalah cuti minggu bagi saya yang berkerja di Kedah. Boleh saja kan ikut other states punya cuti memandang kan saya disektor swasta. Tetapi my management (tauke cina) diorang agak "old school" dari segi menentukan cuti minggu. Semuanya diwarisi dari generasi ke generasi maka agak susah bagi mereka nak buat perubahan besar. 

Saturday blues bukanlah malas nak kerja, tapi lebih kepada what if husband balik Kedah, or what if kalau this week balik ke Ipoh. Susah kan, sebab my DH tu weekend dia Saturday/Sunday. The worse part in PJJ marriage is that the even the weekend pun tak sama. Sigh.

On top of that, DH early said that he will be very busy this Feb. So no chance to meet him at all. So waste 3 days my Chinese New Year holidays (T___T)

Harap March akan cepat menjelma. Dh cakap nak pergi bercuti (again :D). Cant wait!!

Wives lose their appeal with age...??

An Indian cabinet minister has come under fire after claiming wives lose their appeal with age. Then he said he had been quoted out of context and had not meant to cause offence.

Well, if wives lose their appeal with age, then men should be wary of the consequences when they get married. Otherwise, face up to them. Beauty is not permanent, you know, so don't expect us to still be shining goddesses when we're older.

Husbands lose their appeal  too, though often their wives are too kind & tactful to draw attention to the fact.. ;P

Fact....

Men prefer intellect over curvy figures when looking for a partner, claims new research

But women are more preoccupied with a man's appearance over his wealth

Women are scoring higher than men in IQ tests